FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) is a new term that has been added to the Oxford English Dictionary in 2013.
The word FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) refers to the feeling of
Although this is human psychology that people are curious about what is happening around them, since then social media have been popular, many people remain anxious to know what is happening around them.
They remain interested to know the latest status of others and want to make the other people know about them. So they update their status on social media repeatedly. If they do only this, it may go but the problem starts when this habit becomes an addiction.
Nowadays, people are getting addict of social media. They use to upload their posts and photos on social media platforms and repeatedly check the latest updates on their content.
They expect that the viewers should respond to their post in the form of ‘likes’ or ‘comments’ etc. It is observed that such users often beg the viewers to like or share their posts.
If they receive the good response of viewers to their post they become happy. Contrary to it if they remain to fail in attracting viewers, they feel ignored.
If this goes on for a long time with them, then they start feeling that people are not paying attention to them.
They unknowingly become the victim of anxiety that “they are unable to attract others”.
This is called the stage of FOMO.
FOMO is a side effect of the virtual world on social media
There is a virtual world on social media. People become a part of this world. They live in this virtual world as if it were the real world.
The virtual group of people on social media is well because people living in different parts of the world remain in contact with one another. But, it has some negative aspects also. One of them is FOMO.
If you remain active on social media like WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter, Google Plus, Instagram, etc. and you feel disappointed when the viewers do not respond to your post, it means that more or less you have also become the victim of FOMO.
Effect of social media on human behavior
The scope of social media has been increasing rapidly for the last some years. The effect of it has been being observed on human behavior. In view of it, many studies have been made on this subject. The results of some of them are given here.
In a study held in 2014, in “The Journal of Behavioural Addictions” on the relationship between depression and internet addiction, it is found that there is a correlation between depression, anxiety and higher usage of social media. It means that the higher use of social media may be responsible for depression and anxiety.
According to another survey, conducted in 2013, on “Computers in Human Behaviour”, it is found that 75% of people (mostly college-age students) experience the FOMO.
People often report lower satisfaction in their life. They remain engaged with social media almost every time, as immediately before and after sleeping, during the meal, classes, etc. They are even found engaged in dangerous behavior like texting while driving etc.
It is not so that all the studies reach negative conclusions.
A 2009 study in “Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication” found a positive correlation between the use of Facebook by youngsters and the increase in their life satisfaction, civic sense and political awareness, etc.
A 2014 study held that the use of social media brought a significant improvement in the behavior of shy and depressive individuals.
It is clear from the above studies that new technology can affect our lives in both ways – positive or negative. Now it is up to us as to how we use it.
Get over Your FOMO
If you have become the addict of social media and you have gone in the grasp of FOMO, then you should get rid of it immediately.
Remember that if you want the attention of others in your virtual circle but your friends are not paying attention to you, you should not be nervous about it because whatever is happening is happening in the virtual world and not in the real world.
It is possible that your friends on social media may be noticing your post but they are not responding to it and you are feeling missed out by them.
It is necessary for you to come out from your unreal world to the real world.
Here are some suggestions to get over the FOMO
- Don’t go in the grasp of the virtual world. Live in the real world.
- Deny FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).
- Feel that real happiness is there in the real world, not in the virtual world on social media.
- As far as possible, use social media only for essential work.
- Instead of spending your time for nothing on social media, engage yourself in creative work like reading books, playing the game, etc. Enjoy with your family and friends.
No doubt social media has brought a revolution in the world. It has made the world a global family. But the excess of everything is harmful. The excessive use of social media is also being proved harmful. So, reduce the dependence on it.
Leave the virtual world, Live in real
Remember, your friends’ group on social media is not real so do not care for it.
Avoid the virtual world.
Enjoy life with your real friends in the real world.